Clients always ask about “squirting” and whether it’s female ejaculation. It turns out that the two are different. Female ejaculation originates from the skenes gland (the female prostate), while squirting comes from the bladder. Because female ejaculation comes from the female prostate, the texture is thicker, smaller in volume, and more cream colored like semen; squirting is expelled through the urethra, and is much larger in volume, and the expulsion can be a half an ounce to a couple ounces of liquid, which is watery by comparison. Squirting also usually requires clitoral and G-spot stimulation.
The research cited by the International Society for Sexual Medicine suggests that only 10 to 50 percent of women are able to squirt, but it’s possible many more may be able to with the proper stimulation. Ultimately, there’s still a lot we don’t know. Experts think that anatomical size, the development of the glandular tissue, and the number of ductal openings around the urethra determine whether squirting is possible. The current thinking is that squirting either can or cannot occur based on anatomy.
There has been research suggesting that the fluid expelled during squirting comes largely from the bladder, while other research identifies components of female ejaculate. Anecdotally, many women I’ve worked with would argue that they are able to easily empty their bladder after squirting. However, one study showed that when women emptied their bladders before sexual stimulation, the bladder would fill up again during arousal and be empty or somewhat empty after squirting; this would suggest that the fluid eliminated during squirting originated in the bladder.
When someone asks me how to make their partner squirt, I recommend starting with a vibrator taking it up and over the clitoris until they notice the clitoris begin to engorge. Then, continue the clitoral stimulation, while taking a finger, a penis, or a toy and inserting it about two inches inside the vagina. You want to angle the tip towards the anterior wall/the belly button, while making a “come hither” motion in order to stimulate the dime to nickel size tissue that will feel spongy and engorged. Your partner may feel the urge to urinate after a few minutes, which means you’re on the right track. You continue using the same rhythm and pressure, as well as the clitoral stimulation, until you feel the release.
I always recommend beginning with a deep level vibrator, like the Magic Wand or the Doxy, in order to penetrate the deeper clitoral tissue. Then, I suggest starting with your pointer finger, because you can more easily feel the G-spot, which will be the spongy dime to nickel size of tissue on the anterior wall. As you feel this tissue engorge, you want to continue the same pressure and rhythm throughout the process. One thing couples should keep in mind is they should place a towel or a waterproof blanket underneath your partner; this way you won’t have to remake the entire bed at the end of the night. I’ve also learned that you want to keep your face a good distance away from the vagina, unless you want it to be in the line of fire.
One position that works well involves having the woman scoot her behind to the edge of the bed and loop her legs around her partner’s waist or over his legs. Then, he can control how much goes in and out, while she can hold the deep level vibrator over her clitoris. You can also have sex side by side, so again he can control how much goes in, while she holds the vibrator or self-stimulates the clitoris.
