You can love each other and still lose the way back.
Most couples don’t come to therapy because they stopped loving each other. They come because the same conversations keep ending the same way—anger and shutdown, pursuit and withdrawal, resentment, distance, betrayal, or simply feeling alone together.
Couples therapy helps you slow the pattern down, understand what each of you is protecting, and rebuild enough safety to talk about the things that have become difficult or impossible to talk about. The goal isn’t to decide who is right. It’s to help you find each other again.
IMAGO-Certified
Expertise
Attachment
Based
Trauma
& Betrayal
Sex
& Intimacy
The argument is only the surface.
01
The Same Fight, Again
Couples can get caught in repeating cycles of pursuit, withdrawal, criticism, defensiveness, shutdown, or escalation—even when both people are trying to make things better.
02
Distance & Disconnection
Life can slowly become logistics, parenting, work, phones, routines, and responsibilities. Sometimes the relationship survives while the sense of us quietly disappears.
03
Betrayal & Trust
Affairs, secrecy, broken agreements, dishonesty, and old injuries can alter the relationship long after the event itself. Repair means understanding both the rupture and what rebuilding trust actually requires.
04
Sex & Intimacy
Differences in desire, rejection, pressure, avoidance, sexual pain, resentment, or simply losing the spark can become both a relationship problem and an expression of deeper patterns between you.
05
Different Nervous Systems
Neurodivergence, sensitivity, overwhelm, shutdown, masking, communication differences, and different needs for closeness or space can leave both partners feeling misunderstood.
06
Family, Parenting & Life
Children, blended families, extended family, money, illness, careers, caregiving, grief, and major transitions can put enormous strain on even strong partnerships.
You are not the problem.
The pattern is.
Most couples arrive with two compelling versions of what has happened. Each person can usually explain, in painful detail, what the other is doing wrong. But underneath the content of the arguments, there is often a pattern neither person intended to create.
One partner reaches harder and the other pulls away. Withdrawal creates more pursuit. Criticism evokes defensiveness. Defensiveness confirms that nothing is being heard. Before long, both people are protecting themselves from the very person they most want to feel close to.
Our work is not to decide whose version is correct. It is to slow the cycle down enough for both of you to see what is happening, understand what each person is protecting, and begin responding to one another instead of reacting to the pattern.
our approach
Good couples therapy is not about refereeing arguments or deciding which person has the better case.
We slow things down enough to understand what happens between you—what each person reaches for, protects, fears, or needs when the relationship feels threatened. From there, the goal is not simply fewer conflicts. It is a different experience of each other.
Slow the Cycle
When conversations become reactive, neither person can really hear the other. We create enough structure and safety to slow the pattern down and make room for something different.
Make Room for Both Realities
Two people can live inside the same relationship and experience it very differently. Neither person has to disappear, surrender their reality, or be proven wrong for the other to be understood.
Build Something You Can Use Without Us
Therapy should eventually belong to you. We help you develop ways to communicate, repair, stay curious, and reconnect that you can use long after you leave our office.
The affair is the rupture. It may not be the whole story.
Repair requires accountability for what happened—and curiosity about what made it possible.
01 — Account for the betrayal
The affair itself cannot be explained away.
The partner who crossed the boundary takes responsibility; the injured partner gets room for the impact, questions, anger, grief, and loss of safety.
02 — Understand what made it possible
Affairs rarely happen in a vacuum.
Once the immediate injury is being addressed, we look honestly at the relationship and at each partner: distance, unmet or unspoken needs, avoidance, validation seeking, attachment patterns, sexuality, resentment, boundaries, life transitions—whatever actually belongs to this couple’s story.
03 — Build something different
The goal is not simply to prevent another affair.
It is to understand and repair the vulnerabilities well enough that the relationship emerging afterward is more honest, connected, resilient, and able to address problems before they become ruptures.
Your relationship doesn’t have to look like anyone else’s to be worth protecting.
We welcome LGBTQ+ couples, queer and trans partners, consensually non-monogamous and polyamorous relationships, blended and chosen families, and partnerships that do not fit conventional expectations around gender, sexuality, commitment, or family. You do not need to simplify your relationship, translate your identity, or spend the first several sessions teaching us how your world works before we can begin helping.
We are interested in your relationship on its own terms—what each of you needs, what agreements matter to you, where connection has been lost, and whether the relationship you are building feels honest, safe, mutual, and alive. Our role is not to move you toward someone else’s definition of a successful partnership. It is to help the people in the relationship understand one another more deeply and create something that genuinely works for them.
Complex relationships rarely need only one kind of help.
Our model is closer to the way complex cases are approached in a great teaching hospital: start with the whole case, then bring the right lens to the problem in front of you. A relationship may involve attachment, trauma, sexuality, neurodivergence, family systems, health, identity, practical life decisions, or patterns neither partner fully understands yet. We do not expect one technique—or even one clinician—to be the answer to all of it.
Sara and Marc work collaboratively, and clients may work with either of them at different points when the work calls for a different kind of expertise. At one point, a client may need deeper work with Marc around trauma, protective patterns, unconscious associations, or the experiences underneath a recurring reaction. At another, the work may be better served by Sara’s expertise in sexuality, relationships, concrete problem-solving, or helping translate insight into practical changes in daily life.
That means a handoff does not have to mean starting over. The larger story is still understood. The work can change depth, direction, or clinician as the needs of the person or relationship change.
The goal is not for every problem to belong to one therapist.
Two clinicians. Complementary lenses.
Marc tends to go deeper
When insight alone has not been enough, his work often focuses on trauma, protective patterns, unconscious associations, parts work, hypnotherapy, Ketamine-Assisted Therapy, and the experiences underneath recurring relational reactions.
Sara tends to make change livable.
Her work brings attachment, sexuality, neurodivergence, communication, and practical problem-solving into the room—helping translate understanding into concrete changes in how people relate and live together.
meet our team
Complementary perspectives, with the flexibility to bring in a different lens when the work calls for it.
Sara Sloan
LMFT, CST, IRT
Attachment • Sex & Intimacy • Neurodivergence • Communication • Couples • ENM/Poly
Marc Geronimo
LMFT-A, CHT
Trauma • Relational Patterns • Hypnotherapy • Deeper Healing • Couples • Ketamine Therapy
common questions
Couples therapy gives you a structured place to slow difficult conversations down, understand the pattern between you, and begin responding differently. We are not there to referee or decide who is right. We help both people feel heard, identify what keeps the cycle going, and build new ways of communicating, repairing, and reconnecting.
Usually, yes—but not always. Couples work is centered on the relationship, though there are times when individual sessions or work with a different clinician can be useful. We may recommend that when deeper trauma, sexuality, neurodivergence, or other individual concerns are affecting what happens between you.
Yes. Betrayal changes the sense of safety in a relationship, and repair usually requires more than simply deciding to move forward. We help couples understand what happened, make room for the injured partner’s experience, rebuild trust and transparency, and determine what the relationship needs in order to heal.
You do not need to arrive with that answer. Therapy can help you understand what has happened to the relationship, what each of you wants now, and whether repair feels possible. The goal is not to pressure you toward staying together or separating—it is to help you make clearer, more intentional decisions.
Absolutely. We work with LGBTQ+ and queer relationships, neurodivergent couples, consensually non-monogamous and polyamorous partnerships, blended families, and relationships that do not fit conventional templates. We are interested in whether your relationship works for the people in it—not whether it looks like anyone else’s.